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Do you know a narcissist when you see one? The truth is, there are far more subtle and non obvious signs and traits of a narcissist.
Psychology Today published a piece by Professor Preston Ni who says “Narcissism is often interpreted in popular culture as a person who’s in love with him or herself. It is more accurate to characterize the pathological narcissist as someone who’s in love with an idealized self-image, which they project in order to avoid feeling (and being seen as) the real, disenfranchised, wounded self,” and he went on to say “Deep down, most pathological narcissists feel like the ‘ugly duckling,’ even if they painfully don’t want to admit it.”
Yes, this can give us a greater view and understanding of the narcissists who we already know are in our lives, but how do we identify them? It can be hard to understand why some people are just so hard to deal with or even why it is so hard to be in their presence. If this is the case, maybe these 11 points can help you identify a possible narcissist in your life.
1. They Constantly Interrupt
Talking about themselves is the narcissists favorite thing to do, don’t expect to get much into the conversation.
2. They Call You Crazy
Gas-Lighting is a type of emotional abuse that Narcissists use to dismantle your trust from yourself. Using this confusion and anxiety giving tactic helps them gain control of you. If you find yourself questioning your own beliefs and choices when your sense of self is usually good, you are not crazy, you are just dealing with a narcissist
3. They Lose Interest When You Get Real
When you start talking about yourself or something personal, your problems or even just things that interest you, they loose interest.
4. They’re Charming
A narcissistic person can be incredibly charming, when they feel like it. It’s probably why you became friends with them in the first place. The more time you spend with them the more you will notice them using their charm and you’ll notice when they turn it off once they get what they want.
5. It’s Never Their Fault
Nothing is ever their fault, they will use every excuse as to why it isnt. Got in trouble at work? Not their fault – they are just undervalued and victimized. You won’t ever hear them admit to fault.
6. They Can’t Handle Criticism
While they seem cool calm and confident on the outside, the smallest amount of criticism will drive them insane.
7. You Feel The Need To Constantly Flatter
Do you find yourself complimenting and flattering someone constantly? It’s often the easiest way to avoid conflict when you are dealing with a narcissistic personality.
8. They Give Unsolicited Advice
They know more, They always have information about everything, they want to feel important and needed and will offer you advise whenever they can.
9. They’re A Sore Loser… And Winner
If they lose they get angry, If they win they will tease you. Playing sports with them is the worst because no matter what the outcome, you will be forced to know exactly what they think.